5 Ways to Make a Connection with a Woman

By: Gambler

Making a deep connection quickly with a woman is a skill that most guys lack. They speak in rational ways, do not listen, and relate everything the woman says to them, instead of trying to understand things from her point of view. This makes it tricky to establish a connection, evoke feelings in her, and make her feel like she has had a great conversation. Here is what you need to do:

1. Relate things to them not to you or your life.

When some body says they have had an experience, like going to Thailand, it is common to instantaneously relate it to yourself and talk about the time you went to Thailand, or say that you have never gone. Instead, try to imagine what it was like for them, bring out the memories, and show curiosity in their amazing holiday; don’t sweep it under the table by immediately talking about yourself. Connect for a bit, and then it is fine to relate it to yourself.

1. Use what they give you.

When someone is talking they give you pieces of information about them, their feelings and their lives. You can disregard this and talk about yourself or ask another question, but you will be missing an opportunity to connect. Connect on each point before moving on to the next.

1. Be Observant

Notice things about their appearance (clothes, accessories, hair, nails, jewellery, etc). Women typically put a lot of effort and time into the way they look; their bag might match their shoes, belt, earrings, and dress. Most people don’t notice, they’ll be happy if you do. Jewellery and accessories also often have a story associated with them or mean something to the girl.

1. Be empathetic

If someone has an interest, a passion, a hobby, or a strong point of view you have 3 options. The first is to say “me too”, the second is to disagree, and the 3^rd and best option is to show that you understand why she has this passion, interest or view regardless of whether you share it. If someone likes cooking, you don’t have to also like cooking to show that you understand why she would like it. In the form of a question, tell her why cooking might be something she enjoys so much.

1. Talk about things that evoke passions and feeling.

What is something they are very passionate about; it might be anything from friends and family, to travel, to ballet, to theatre. Connect on these points by showing you understand why they feel that way. Do not gloss over them, say “me too”, or immediately change subject, talk about yourself or ask another question.

Do these things and you will make a real connection quickly. Instead of it taking weeks, you can do it in hours or days.

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