How To Get a Girls Phone Number
By: Paul Janka
How can you walk up to a total stranger and have the courage to ask for her
telephone number? You’ve barely known this person for two minutes and already
you’re assuming she’ll give you her number? That’s exactly right. Learning how
to pick up women requires being direct, yet creating an air of mystery. By
creating the circumstances that arouse her intrigue but not her suspicion, the
beautiful woman in front of you will do just that.
Creating the ideal conditions depends on two things: what you bring to the
table, and how well you use the environment, or external variables. What you
bring to the table includes:
• How you look. Your body language and style. Eye contact and use of hands.
• What you say (and what you don’t). Build credibility by anchoring yourself
to something important, such as a neighborhood (if it’s nice), a
school/university, a nearby workplace or a routine (“Oh, really? I come here
for coffee every morning, as well.”) Avoid arousing suspicion by having a
casual tone and approaching in an offhand manner.
• Where you initially direct her attention. Most dating guides don’t get
this quite right. The key to not “raising a red flag” is to have her spotlight
on something that is not you and is not her. This is called a prop. For
example, you edge up to her on the street corner, while she’s waiting for light
to change. As a car rounds the corner in front of you, say, “I hate how these
guys always take these corners so tightly...” If she’s an open person (a
yes/maybe girl) she’ll reply, “I know, right? The other day a jerk did that and
ruined my new raincoat!” Now you’re in an informal, non-threatening conversation.
You can offer to be her corner chaperone, or joke that she shouldn’t leave the
house without you. Maybe she needs to call you next time she’s on a corner she
can’t handle alone…
The second half of the situational circumstance arises out of your surroundings.
Clearly, as in the car example above, using what’s straight away apparent to
you both is critical. Playing off the surroundings is a skill that a good
pick-up artist learns to develop. In particular, learn to use the element of
timing to tighten up your game and secure the digits in less than two minutes:
• If you’re at a light, be aware of when it turns green; this is when she’ll
start walking. If you have a nice rapport and are approaching the far corner,
this is when to ask for the number, “...because you’re leaving the other way at
this next corner.”
• On a subway, ask how far-off she’s going. You may have only 30 seconds to
get to the number – or you may have ten minutes. Alter your pace accordingly.
• Maybe she’s waiting for a friend who’s coming in “a minute.” Work fast.
She’ll be less likely to give her number with her friend watching.
• In an elevator? Think seconds, not minutes. (A remark about the layout of
the buttons, the slowness of the elevator, or the mini-LCD screen are all good
“prop openers.”)
Be quick and be relaxed. Two minutes is plenty of time to say “hello” and
enter a few digits. Hone this skill and fill your phone. The heavy lifting
comes later...
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To The Good Life,
Paul Janka
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