How to pick up women – using rejection to pave the way to TRUE success
By: W. Wilcox
 Most men aren’t skilful or thriving when it comes to meeting and dating
women. There are two main reasons for this: they don’t get out there and sell
themselves, meet women and make connections. And when, once in every blue moon,
they do try it on with a girl, they fall flat on their faces, not knowing how
to handle the circumstances, the conversation, the interaction and attraction.
There’s a single word that ties these two reasons for failure together, its
rejection.
Men who would love to meet and date a beautiful girl or two choose not to go
out and actually try to make it happen, on the most part, because of a
deep-seated horror of rejection. They hate the idea that they might get shot
down and embarrassed. And they know that if they try their hardest and STILL
get rejected, they definitely have no hope with women, now or ever. So, they
prefer to stay at home with the hazy ambition that one day they might make
something happen. On the other hand, there are men out there that do try to
meet and get together with girls – and, unfortunately, they get discarded every
now and then. It’s happened a few of times; those brush-offs take their toll on
the guy: his confidence dwindles, his sense of humor begins to fade, and most
noticeably, his enthusiasm vanishes. He becomes like 80% of the rest of the
male population: a dreamer and not a do’er.
The first thing you need to do is distinguish the POSITIVE function
rejection serves. You need to classify it in your mind. What is it and what
does it mean? Rejection often comes in the following forms:
1. You’ve been talking to a girl for a while and things seem to be going
well but when you ask to see her again or suggest exchanging numbers she
suddenly freezes up on you and shuts you out.
2. You try to get talking to a girl but she only gives you the minimal
amount of recognition possible and doesn’t allow you to start a real
conversation.
3. You’ve been on a couple of dates with a girl but have yet to take it
further. When you try to progress the rapport, she clams up and becomes remote
and seemingly uninterested.
Whatever type of rejection you’ve experience or fear the most, you need to
fully identify what it is. It’s a sign that one or more components of your game
– that is, your ability to be successful with women – isn’t carrying out
correctly. It’s like a flashing red light in a submarine, it’s telling you
something isn’t right and, most importantly, that you need to DO something to
fix it. That’s the key point most men consistently miss – they think being
rejected is the end of the line, game over. In fact, it’s simply an altering of
the tracks on your path to success. Consider the following important points
whenever you feel rejection negatively controlling your ability to do well with
the opposite sex:
1. If a girl rejects your advances when you introduce yourself or try to
start a conversation, it means she has decided that, for whatever reason, you
aren’t someone she wants to get to know. However, remember this totally
critical fact: she’s made her decision based on how you presented yourself in
the short amount of time she knew/knows you. Rethinking how you act, speak and
behave can produce a reply that falls at the complete opposite end of the scale
from rejection and failure: one of success and triumph. Don’t let a single
brush-off impact your motivation or confidence, simply see it as a sign that
you need to alter and rethink your strategy.
2. Never take things personally when you’re playing the seduction game.
Although a girl might not be attracted to you, it doesn’t mean she’s
necessarily right to feel that way or correct in the assumption she’s made of
you. People make impulsive decisions and have knee-jerk reactions to people,
places and situations every day, in the positive AND negative. Your goal is to
make a good first impression and display a strong sense of confidence and
relaxation. Once you do that, your bad luck seems to magically disappear and a
new long-term streak of good fortune begins. (Which is actually thanks to the
fact that you didn’t let rejection get you down and instead used it as a sign
that you needed to change something?)
If you can remember the concepts above and use them when ‘out in the field’,
you’ll notice an almost hypnotic effect most men out there would kill to have
themselves. Because, you see, it’s when you yourself can brush-off the
brush-offs that real achievement happens and also what leads to you meeting and
getting to know the girl of your dreams.
W. Wilcox is the author of HypnoDate – a revolutionary
manual that teaches men how to use special hypnotic principles to become
masters of attraction and seduction, without the need for good looks, money or
a flash car.
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