Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes With Your Hands?
By: John Alexander
Unfortunately, what you do with your hands can be one of the
quickest non-verbal ways to annihilate the attraction that a woman feels for
you, because the wrong hand movements can correspond that you are a low-status,
beta male.
To make matters worse, your hands can be particularly tough to manage because,
let's face it, when you feel nervous, the toughest thing in the world is
figuring out what to do with your hands!
For victory with your dating and seduction of women, make sure you don't make
the following body language mistakes with your hands.
MISTAKE ONE. Displaying your anxiety with your hands.
You do this when you:
1) Shred napkins.
2) Make your hands into fists.
3) Sit on your hands.
4) Hold something and play with it.
5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs.
6) Hold your hands strangely still.
7) Sit on your hands to evade having the woman see them tremble.
Although you might be feeling anxious, the last thing you want to do is to let
the woman detect you feel that way.
Instead you want to express that you're calm and in control. Nothing attracts a
woman more than a man who's laid back and confident.
MISTAKE TWO. Putting your fingers into your mouth.
When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers, you are, according
to psychologists, doing the similar thing that infants are doing when they suck
their mother's breast.
For a baby, breast feeding provides relief. When we became toddlers, our thumbs
replaced our mom's nipple.
And then as adults, biting our thumbnail does the same thing. Ever noticed that
when you're out in public, you primarily bite your nails when you're under stress?
THE SOLUTION. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table.
Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop
forward.
Keep your hands and arms open and tranquil. Most of the time this means having
them about 18 inches or half a meter apart, your palms facing each other, with
fingers curved slightly upward.
As your palms face each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms
convey honesty and being totally relaxed with yourself. Having the back of your
hands facing her can often convey that you're hiding something.
Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your
thumbs and watch the women flock to you.
John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha
Male , a dating and seduction success guide for men which will improve your body
language and confidence.
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