Dating This Girl For a Week...

[DCNC2355]

Ok so I met this absolutely wonderful girl at a coffee shop, we actually knew mutual friends from a while back and that is how we recognized one another.

Anyways, so we met, exchanged phone numbers, and went out on a date 2 or 3 days later for dinner and drinks. Everything went probaly as well as you could possibly script, great talk over dinner, first kiss was in the rain! how nice! haha And more kissing over drinks! We loved everything about one another. I stayed with her the first night, we hung out sparingly the next few days (her idea), she asked what I was doing and wanted to come along, I could not say no you cant come. Anyways, to make a long story somewhat short, we spent probaly the best possible week together that you could imagine. She wanted us to carve pumpkins together, pass out candy halloween night together, it was like we were a couple. She even told me that if I didnt come to church with her that I could not see her, basically she wanted to date me.

Well after a week, she got cold feet, backed out, said that she was not ready for a relationship and told me that she no longer wanted to see me again. I told her that it was ok, I understood she was busy, and offered to be friends. She basically said no, that she wanted us to be cut off.

I have not called her, texted her, or emailed her since, thinking that I would hear something and have not. I really do want her back but I understand that me calling or going back to her at this point will only push her farther away.

Any recommendations? Thanks!

[Curly]

You have to know that girls are not possible to understand, so don't play their games, make them play YOUR game.

To me you sound like the girl of the story ("We loved everything about one another"), not the MAN. As you said it, "her idea". You have to start being a MAN who is in control of the situation, her, and yourself. You could have said "you can't come today, because I have some things to do"

On a date, you don't have to buy her dinner and drinkS, do the things you do on a regular basis, this is another way to show her that you are in control and you are making her play YOUR game (of course she has to be having fun).

Try calling her another time, set up a date and if it just doesn't work. Move on.

[DCNC2355]

Thanks for replying. Yea I mean it all seemed to fall into place until the end. I was still doing my thing during the week, playing ball at night, going out with the guys to watch the games, working durin the day, alot of my routine was the same, but hers was the one that seriously changed and after a while she didnt like that. She changed all of her Halloween plans with her girlfriends JUST to do everything with me which I had no idea she had done until later that night.

Oh well, she offered to meet up and bring me back my things from her house, liquor, toothbrush, that type of thing and I said no thanks. Tried to take the approach of well thanks but no thanks, and just blew her off. Havent heard from her since. haha oh well, i tried.

[Hot Alpha Female]

I think that you might have been sending out "let just be friend's vibes" or that you were communicating needy and insecure behaviour.

I have done some recordings on how to interact with women in an effective manner, but also just check out pick up or seduction on the net and you will be able to find stuff to help you out.

In other words, you were not able to create enough attraction with her .. and her not wanting to get into a relationship is just a shite test or an excuse.

[CommunicationsExpert]

"Ok so I met this absolutely wonderful girl at a coffee shop, we actually knew mutual friends from a while back and that is how we recognized one another.

Anyways, so we met, exchanged phone numbers, and went out on a date 2 or 3 days later for dinner and drinks. Everything went probaly as well as you could possibly script, great talk over dinner, first kiss was in the rain! how nice! haha And more kissing over drinks! We loved everything about one another. I stayed with her the first night, we hung out sparingly the next few days (her idea), she asked what I was doing and wanted to come along, I could not say no you cant come. Anyways, to make a long story somewhat short, we spent probaly the best possible week together that you could imagine. She wanted us to carve pumpkins together, pass out candy halloween night together, it was like we were a couple. She even told me that if I didnt come to church with her that I could not see her, basically she wanted to date me.

Well after a week, she got cold feet, backed out, said that she was not ready for a relationship and told me that she no longer wanted to see me again. I told her that it was ok, I understood she was busy, and offered to be friends. She basically said no, that she wanted us to be cut off.

I have not called her, texted her, or emailed her since, thinking that I would hear something and have not. I really do want her back but I understand that me calling or going back to her at this point will only push her farther away.

Any recommendations? Thanks!"

What we are trying to get at here is why she "got cold feet"? Was is something you did or was it any number of extranneous circumstances? Do you have any platonic or non-platonic female friends that are friends with her but are more loyal to you and would be more loyal to you than they would to her. Find a girl you can trust that is friends with both you and the girl that "got cold feet". Have her approach the girl and find out why that girl "got cold feet". Have her collect as much information as possible. And most importantly, bring that information back to you. Now when you have the information, we'll go from there. Message me back with the information that the girl collected. When you have done this, I will look at the information and I will tell you the next step.