Being Judgemental

[Legendat24]

I think a lot of people in the seduction community preach that they are not judgmental. They say don’t judge, give value, and be an open person. I think its very positive but I also think that a lot of people preach it but don’t practice it.

Everyone wants to aspire to a place where they are not judgmental and they certainly don’t want to be judged.

Recently I was at an event where one particular thing stood out to me. He was going on and on about being non- judgmental and how it can greatly effect everyone game then the conversation got onto the topic of strippers and porn stars and he immediately started spitting out snap negative judgments about them.

I think its extremely important to have core values such as being non-judgmental, but come on guys practice what you preach. There is nothing more un-attractive in a person regardless of anything else then if they are shifty in their core beliefs.

I know that one of the biggest reasons a lot of people are in the community is that at some point a girl hurt them. Probably pretty bad. I know I really got into this after a bad break up. Our experience from our past have shaped our values and how we react to other people. Our experiences with women shape how we think and treat them now.

This is all about self - improvement. If you really want a loving good relationship with a girl that you love and that she loves you then, to get to that place we are all going to have to let go of our past. Our past pains and our past presuppositions. I see it all to often that a lot community guys have deep seeded anger issues toward women. Guys some girls can smell it. Just like when you are hanging out with a person that is all negative in his life. It seeps into the conversation. It poisons it. We shouldn’t be learning game to fix emotional issue with a particular girl from our past.

I want to develop my-self into the best possible person I can be. I think a lot of guys have that same vision but they hold on to bad feeling in their past. Sure I was hurt badly by one particular girl. Its her though not all of women. Even if you’ve had bad experiences with 100 woman that is such a small tiny fraction compared to the billions that are on the planet and at some point you might have to take a hard look at yourself and think if it is them or if it is you.

This is kind of a rant but practice what you preach and everyone will see it.

Legend
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[KPrincess91]

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[KPrincess91]

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[KPrincess91]

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Every girl out there has a different set of switches, cause it really depends on their culture, their childhood and age, plus few other minor things...

But there are some common switches you must turn ON to all girls out there:

--He must be a challenge
--Alpha
--Interesting
--Unpredictable
--Good\average looking
--Not needy
--Is he good at sex?
--Does he have a sense for humor?
--Rapport
--Comfort
--Trust


Now, those switches can be either ON or OFF, there is no value in-between... for geeks, it’s all off

What happens when you switch on most of those switches?? Wow... she starts to be interested in me... actually... she starts to show IOIs (indication of interest). That reaction is totally normal -- she meets a guy, and this guy is funny, good looking, interesting, romantic, not needy... etc. of course she is interested in getting to know him better (read: sleeping with him).

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You can tell stories where you were romantic, or you go in front of the bar to watch a sunset... It doesn’t matter, as long as the 'he is romantic' switch is ON.

Every story or routine you have in your arsenal is saying something to her (switching on some switches). When designing routines\stories, first take a look what do you want to convey (that you are not already conveying with your look\body language).

The easiest way to switch On lot of switches is Body language & the way you behave\dress...