An Inside Look On How to Attract A Woman
By: SwinggCat
Hey Guys,
This week I have a very unusual treat for you. A few guys emailed me their wish lists of things they'd like me to write about. I swear, occasionally I feel like Santa! High on their lists was a demand for a few real life examples of my techniques in battle. My feeling is that the more examples you hear and read about, the deeper your perception of my techniques will become. Put simply, genuine examples are amazing!
Those of you who've had the occasion to read my book know that I have a great example of this in the last chapter. I have decided to embrace a report a guy sent in to me about him sleeping with a woman within a very short time frame using my techniques. In this article I am going to analyze it by breaking down the techniques he used to get extremely sexual with this woman. I am really spoon feeding you some powerful information for success with women. Putting something like this together, however, expends a lot of time and energy. If you profit, though, my pains are well worth it!
To really gain from this, you need to have read my book. So, if you own my book but have not taken the time to read it, do! If you haven't invested in my book yet, you need to. By not having read my book you are depriving yourself of much of the reimbursement you could be getting from this article. So, pick up a copy here
Enjoy!!
"What's up man? I purchased your book. I read it two times and have an outstanding success story to tell you about...
My friend brought me to a bar in Norfolk, VA last weekend to meet up with this girl he's dating and her friend. Neither of us knew what to anticipate with "the friend" but when we got there, I had met her before. In reality, she was the girlfriend of a business associate of mine a few years back. She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever picture. In short, a total hottie. I wanted her then, and you better accept as true I wanted her now. I made a "cool" effort at reminding her of who I was and she managed to play like she couldn't remember. Nice – a challenge! So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I disregarded her totally at first. I paid finicky attention to my friend and his girlfriend and inclined my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl. After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by "recalling" things from the times we had formerly met. I reframed her recollection as an effort to pick me up, and that I don't connect myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was escalating my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. I waited until she starting leaning into me and then I inclined myself in the direction of her a little more. I then did a faultless cold-reading.
"I know you come across as a cruel-hearted bitch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your equal yet. You haven’t met a guy that could keep you in your position and make you understand that the world doesn't rotate around you. Well let me tell you something that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to completely love it.” OMG dude. The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before. So I told her we were going for a stroll. She followed me. I walked in front of her. Then I took her arm. Then I took her hand. Then I let go of her hand and walked in front of her again. Then I twisted around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I keep in mind reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow raised just looking at her like she had some kind of nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have. I gave in for about 20 seconds, then softly pushed her away and told her that I am not a sex doll and I had no intent of sleeping with her (the sausage with feet line didn't feel true, so I went with another adaptation). Then I said that our friends were waiting for us and proceeded to start to saunter back to where they were sitting. She followed. We went to the fresh Devil's Martini which is a classy dance club/bar in Norfolk. I danced with her and just about every other woman in the club. I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me. I began dancing on a raised stage where all the chicks could check me out and my friend's g/f came up to me and told me that I was so hot and she could tell that every woman in the place wanted me. Nice. But that is my conviction anyway, so she was just affirming what I already knew. Finally I left the stage and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the courtyard and yes, she followed. So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a feeble effort at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started revolving away from her and said "Ok, you're completely right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper fashion for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and essentially offered her self to me in any way that I chose.
Thanks for putting together such a great lesson on how to be the prize. It really works great!"
- J from LA
Wow! - This is some immense stuff. Get out your note pad because we're about to pull apart what J from LA did.
"She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever envision. In short, a full hottie."
J, don't falter to email me her phone number. LOL
"I wanted her then, and you better accept as true I wanted her now. I made a "cool" effort at reminding her of who I was and she managed to play like she couldn't remember. Nice -
A challenge!"
Notice J's frame of mind: Even though he was probably lustier than a horny monkey, he didn't place an illogical amount of worth on her. When most men are interacting with a really attractive woman, they put a enormous amount of value on her. When she doesn't react in the way they hoped, they act like their life source has been cut off. When you treat a woman - particularly when first getting to know her - as your source of life, you are putting yourself in a very compromising situation.
It is next to impossible to set up yourself as the PRIZE when you put a gigantic worth on a woman wanting, accepting, and validating you. It also conveys to her that your life is dull and that you are hoping she will fill the empty space of thrill in your life. Conveying this to women makes it improbable that they will respond to you in a positive way. Train yourself not to operate this way around women.
This is, of course, easier said than done. Simply put, even if we tell ourselves consciously to not do something, we frequently times find ourselves slipping back into the same old manners. That's why I broadly talk about frames and developing a strong belief system in my book. Learning about Frames and developing a sturdy Belief System are powerful weapons to offset this sluggishness.
If you haven't read my book yet, something that may help is taking the attitude that if you don't ATTRACT her, it is no giant loss. If you do succeed at ATTRACTING her, then, if she's fortunate, she gets to be an addition to your already thrilling life. This conveys to a woman that not getting her is of no big loss to you. Conveying this is a huge part of establishing Prizability: Defining yourself as having higher professed value.
Furthermore, notice how in J's veracity the possibility of her rejecting him does not even exist. Instead, he interprets her ignoring him as a test.
"So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I disregarded her totally at first. I paid meticulous attention to my friend and his girlfriend and inclined my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl."
J did the correct thing. Why should he give a woman claiming not remember him consideration? Think about it: If some four hundred pound woman, complete with growth on chin, a big bushy beard, and cheesy bread in hand, pretended to not remember you, you'd just pay no attention to her, wouldn't you?
Most men, however, would react to a beautiful woman in a different way because they put a lot of value on her visual appeal. But when you let someone to disrespect you, it faintly conveys that you place more value on them than on yourself. Start becoming aware of your reactions to the way women treat you - especially women you've just met. Do your responses to being ill treated by women you've just met express that you put a huge amount of value on them?
"After about 15 minutes she attempted to keep me by 'recalling' things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her remembrance as an effort to pick me up, and that I don't connect myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY attracted, because I was growing my prizability while essentially calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before."
Interesting. Notice the change. She went from not remembering him to recalling events from the previous time they'd met. When you reject to tolerate ill-treatment from a woman, conveying that you put more value on your values, expectations of others, and yourself than on her beauty, oftentimes, she'll end up perceiving you as a PRIZE she wants to win over.
"I then did a faultless cold-reading.’I know you come across as a ruthless bi*tch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your equal yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you understand that the world doesn't rotate around you. Well let me tell you something that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to completely love it.' OMG dude.
The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before."
You might think this is a bit cruel but trust me - it's actually quite powerful! This woman is most likely used to men putting a lot of value on her, doing things on her conditions, trying to live up to her expectations, giving her all of their control, causing them to get SUCKED INTO HER REALITY.
She is most likely unresponsive of guys getting effortlessly sucked into her reality, and, perhaps, bored of her own realism
The fundamental meaning of his cold reading to her was this: "I know you're used to men getting sucked into your reality, but that ends RIGHT NOW, darling! Not only am I disinclined to get sucked into your reality, but your about to get sucked into my mine." Read what I just wrote once more, because I gave away some really great info.
"So I told her we were going for a stroll. She followed me."
Of course she followed, she was sucked into his reality - and, I'm sure, treasured each second of it!
"Then I twisted around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the lips. Then I pressed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the concluding pages of your book - so I KNEW I was doing all the correct things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kind of guts calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would forever have."
This is a nice implementation of what in book I call "Physical Push-Pull." This is a very powerful form of Prizing - making a woman want, and reach, and pursue for more of you. There is a lot more to it than what I am going to talk about here. One important feature is that by pushing a woman away from you while kissing her, you are creating a Tension Loop - creating unsettled emotional tension inside her of not being quite sure what you think of her.
This makes her want to bring declaration and conclusion to this emotional anxiety through trying to kiss you. Another aspect to pushing a woman away like this is that it established the casing that she is in your REALITY doing things on your conditions.
This all worked because he had ALREADY SUCKED HER INTOHIS REALITY.
"I even tried to make her boogie with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me."
This is great. He is establishing he is the Prize through assigning that it is no big deal if he loses her.
"Finally I left the stage and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the courtyard and yes, she followed."
If you suck someone into your reality, it is extremely simple to do this.
"So I figured by now I could have everything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a feeble effort at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I began rotating away from her and said "Ok, you're completely right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and directly to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper fashion for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and essentially offered herself to me in any way that I chose." a woman prefers or how she judges you. ATTRACTION is how she reacts to you establishing yourself as the Prize united with generating the feeling inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you. As long as you are able to set up yourself as the Prize, get them emotionally wanting for Yes! - As soon as he conveyed that it was no defeat to him if he didn't sleep with her, she saw him as a Prize she wanted to sleep with.
J was able to achieve all of this because he was able to set up that he was the Prize, get her emotionally craving more of him, and effectively SUCK HER INTO HIS REALITY.
I don't care if you are bald or tiny or overweight or broke...or whatever it is you feel is preventing you from succeeding with women. ATTRACTION is not what more of you, and sucks them into your reality; accomplishment with very attractive women is your reach. If you are ready to master these skills and start ATTRACTING women you crave, pick up a copy of my book today.
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Your Devoted Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
"Dr. of Attraction"
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