How To Get A Womans Phone Number and Email in 3 minutes
By: David DeAngelo
Let me start off by telling you something remarkable:
I've personally stopped focusing on just receiving phone
numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are far superior (I still get the
phone number too, of course).
Let me make clear.
I perfected the art of receiving phone numbers a couple of
years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her
number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after running
like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL
THE AMMOUNT OF SUCCESS YOU HAVE WITH WOMEN.
You see, women have many unusual reasons for giving out
their phone numbers. Some love the consideration of having a lot of men call
them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually attracted. But the
universal response that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women
act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often start
acting stand offish or even poorer, just plain foul. It's almost like she's a different
person than the one you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier,
but it gets more optimistic responses later on. It's almost as if women value
it that you've taken the time to think about what you're going to say when you
write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.
The other profit of email is that it can be written and
answered anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email
can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR more frequently
than voicemail messages.
HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll frequently
say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back
to my friends."
They generally don't know what to do, as they're used to
guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you
too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind of separate, I
turn back and say "HEY! Do you have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit shocking, and "Do you
have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm officially asking her if she
HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and
say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down. (This
is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from
them as well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S
IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too."
When you ask for email, it's very low hazard for a woman, so
she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out an email
address without thinking about it, because they know that they can decide later
to just not answer.
The enchantment of asking them to write their phone number
down WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is all about the
psychology of human performance.
She's already psychologically said "OK, I'll give you
my email address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When you say
"And just write your number down there too" it's only NATURAL to just
write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH lesser step than giving out the
phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this easy
move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers
down without even thinking twice.
Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real
phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a
number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or
says that it's her "voicemail or pager number," then I say
"Look, carve your actual number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call
you nine times a day..." They laugh and usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I
don't have email" then I pick on them and say "Well, do you have
electricity?" This is a GREAT chance to use humor.
Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but
I'll take your regular phone number. It's so damn tough to reach people on the
phone these days."
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've gotten
hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact string every time I talk to a
woman and I want to get her phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can frequently
do this in a minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words
and the steps, and practice it in your mind over and over until you know precisely
what to say for each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a
reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a woman ask me. If
you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn't give it
to you, then she also knew why you asked.
Just believe that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, presumptuous,
calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher
Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and women love it!
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