How To Pick Up Women In Nightclubs And Streets
By: Thundercat
 Question From A Reader:
Dear Joseph,
I am a student and I wanted to know how to pick up women in the most crucial
areas with plenty of chicks. Here are the situations first: - The Nightclub
where the music is so loud, where there are too many people with little or no room
to move, and the girls are dancing with themselves. The main idea is that it is
very hard and almost pointless to begin a conversation in these areas. How do I
do it?
Second: - How do I pick up women who are walking along the street maybe going
somewhere. Like I am in school, how do I meet a girl who is walking down maybe
to her dorm or somewhere else? The point is where I’m from people do this to
women all the time. But here in America,
it’s almost considered odd because you pop out of nowhere and she’s not
expecting it.
Finally, what do you do when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend? Should you
leave her alone or continue your business on getting her. What if she is completely
in love with her boyfriend, how do you win her over?
--Xion
My Response
Okay, I guess I'll try tackling each question in order...
First, Nightclubs ARE very tricky venues. Unless you're specially suited to the
party-style nightlife, these venues will be a bit intimidating. And even if you
are predisposed to this type of pick up, you will still have to deal with lots
of opposition from other men.
That said, it's not impossible to meet women in nightclubs. But it will involve
you to be a little more outgoing and aggressive than other venues.
First off, when I'm in a club, I tend to like to hang out in open-air areas
where I can talk to other people easier. Patios and right outside the club can
be good for this. Most clubs will have some form of outside area where you can
hang out -- especially places like New York
and Los Angeles
where you're not permitted to smoke inside.
The dance floor can also be quite successful. If you like to dance, go out
there and try dancing with the women who are dancing by themselves. If they're
not into it, move on. If they are, it's PLAY time! =)
Also, keep in mind the time at which you're going to the club. Usually, the
later it gets, the easier it is to pick up a girl (this is because as it gets
later, people are more inclined to "hook up" due to alcohol,
desperation, boredom, etc.).
Second, to approach women on the street takes a bit of skill. In America, people
do tend to be a bit more personal than in other parts of the world. My best
advice in this respect is to actually follow the girl for a bit and see where
she's going. If she stops off at a coffee shop or a bus stop, or whatever, THAT
is the time to approach her! If it looks like she's going somewhere you can't
follow her into (like her home/dorm, for instance) then you'll have to take the
chance and try approaching her cold. But make it a fast approach and include a
time constraint ("I know you're on your way somewhere, this'll only take a
second..."), get her number as quick as you can, then move on.
Finally, when it comes to the "boyfriend" thing, that's a matter of individual
taste. Some guys don't want to mess with that, others don't care. The thing is,
most women aren't THAT dedicated to their boyfriends, so it's not as big of an
obstacle as you might think.
The important thing to do in this situation is to try and "read" the
woman. Sometimes, a girl will tell you she has a boyfriend when she really
doesn't because she wants to politely reject you (and sometimes she really does
have a boyfriend and wants to stay faithful to him). If this is the case, you
have to look at the signals she's giving you to see if she's actually into you
or not.
If a woman does like you and IS in fact into you, she will usually with-hold
the fact that she has a boyfriend. And if she does bring it up, she wants you
to take the lead and "sweep her off her feet" so she won't have to
feel guilty about cheating on him. So when that's the case, it's time to pump
up the aggressiveness on you're pick up.
If you want to learn how to read a woman, check out my book The Art of
Approaching, I devote an entire section of my book to this. I go into great
detail on how to spot the subtle signs a woman gives off to let you know she's
interested in you, and how to use this to your advantage!
If you haven't read my book yet, I'd highly recommend you do! You can download
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Wishing you success!
Joseph Matthews
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