Pick Up Overview
By: Hypnotic
There are
several phases you must go through in order to successfully seduce a woman,
this will be a quick overview of the entire process.
The first
step involved in picking up a girl is beginning a conversation, this is what we
call opening. This can be ignored if you've been introduced by say a
friend for example but for the purpose of this article the girl you're picking
up will be someone you've never met before. A smooth opener should be done
without hesitation and remember, it’s just an opener nothing more. So you've
been in the set for a minute or two now and because you threw out a time
constraint the group or girl feels comfortable talking to you. Easy so far
right? If you are able to switch topics and chat to the group about whatever
you want you have successfully opened. Your next move is to build attraction
for yourself. Walking into the room you had a good looking girlfriend with you,
that’s given you value, even though you may not have realized it. You start
telling a funny story, the group laughs you continue to be the center of
attention. Winning the group over wasn't hard at all now was it... nahh...What
the hell do I do now? Well let’s see, you've jumped into a set, successfully
opened the group and managed to get a normal conversation going, you then
displayed value through the people you're with and the funny stories you have
told. But now what? Qualifying is a quick way to make her feel like
she's worked for your approval. Nobody likes things to come easy everybody
wants something that a) they can't have and b) something they've worked for. So
after you've pointed out that she's really cute it’s too bad she's not your
type, she seeing you as a person of value, snaps back and try’s to prove
herself to you. Pushing and pulling her mentally will do wonders, woman tend to
always look deeper into things then men do. **OMGwtf did he really mean that**.
She's taken the bate and you've started to qualify her, continuing to qualify
her will be easier once you Isolate. Since you've befriended the entire
group, they won't mind you pulling the friend away... just for a second. You
pull her away now in hopes of building a better rapport with her, good
plan. Having the feeling that you two have known each other for years will make
her all the more comfortable around you. And since you've been slowing building
up rapport from the beginning, your touch will not seem strange, more normal
and exciting. Just think, if a hot girl comes up to you and says hello, it will
leave and impact; however, if she came up to you and put her arm around you and
said hello you would be thinking about that for the next 15 minutes. Back on
track, comfort building is suppose to be done somewhere in the middle if you
look at it in a linear way. A lot of guys tend to make the mistake of jumping
into set and trying to build rapport with the target right away. This is going
to accomplish nothing but "I have a boyfriend" or you might even get
the 300 lb war pig she's with after you. Running through the venue Indiana
Jones style with a large chick with a moustache trailing closely behind isn’t
that alpha, so try to avoid this.(remove this from good copy). So do not jump
in head first, take your time, let them see what a unique person you are and
how you are different then every other guy (by not hitting on the hot one right
away). Furthermore, let’s say you've done the first few steps right and your
looking for a one night stand, a crowded venue is hardly the place to shag, OH
BEHAVE! Always have a condom with you whenever you go out, wrap it before you
tap it! So you grab her by the hand and you're off to your place to show her
your ferocious teacup Chihuahua named bubbles who likes to sleep by your crotch
at night. Awesome, a good excuse to bring her back without saying "maybe
you should come back to my place to have sex and if your lucky a bottle of
wine”. If everything has gone well thus
far be smooth and if you face any resistance, do not fight it, simply avoid it
and find another way around. Seduction can happen on the first night or
it may take a couple hours of being together before she's ready. Two steps
forward and one step back. She will comply eventually; it’s just a matter of
time.
Pickup is
a numbers game, increase your play and increase your odds. Practice out in the
field is what separates the boys from the men.
Sarge
on.
Opening: Opening is far more simple than it
appears to be. All you’re looking to accomplish with your opener is starting a
normal conversation. This can be done many ways; for example, Hi. To start off
many people like to use canned openers. Having 2 or 3 in the back of your head
can help ease nervousness and stop you from hesitating when its time to
approach. There are different kinds of
openers, the main ones I like to use are situational and opinion.
Situational
openers derive
from whatever’s going on around you, if you like making witty comments then
open with that.
Ex. those are nice shoes....my 10 year old niece has a pair just like them.
Opinion
Openers are very common and do a good job of flying under the radar. With
topics like jealousy and and relationships, it’s easy for woman to jump right
in and give their 2cents. The key however is to make this believable. Walking
up and jumping right into it can sometimes work but they will often stand there
and wonder... why the hell he is asking this. So when you come in and say Ex.
Hey guys, I've got to get going in a sec but I want a quick opinion on
something. How long would you wait after breaking up with someone before you
start dating their friend? Ok well my buddy I was just talking to broke up with
his girlfriend yesterday and he's wondering if he can go right ahead... or he
should give it some time!
False
time constraints are put in
because right off the bat you want to know why this stranger is talking to you
and how long they're going to be there for. Notice the FTC in the above opinion
opener example? I've got to get going in a sec. It’s that simple, another
common one is I've got to get back to my friends but. You put them in to put
the group at ease, don't over-complicate this.
Attraction
is the value
you possess. If she finds you more valuable then herself... she will be
inclined to get to know you better. Hence why we come in with a girl on your
side, this is called social proof. Other girls like to be around you, she will
too.
To gain
attraction people will sometimes use the neg theory. This is the idea of disqualifying
her and letting her know she's not perfect. Its done in a sincere way however,
as to not look like you are purposely bashing her. This technique can be as
simple as informing her she has something in her teeth, nobody likes to be told
they have food in their teeth :). Building attraction in her eyes is what this
phase is all about. You will however express your interest in her as well but
that’s what qualification is for.
Qualification, this is done in order to slowly
show your interest in her because she's worked for it. She wants to feel like
you've decided to get to know her for more than her looks. You can actually put
that into a question when qualifying and ask her to list her 3 favorite
qualities about herself, and it can't be looks.
Isolate or masturbate my friends, it’s that
simple. If you can’t pull the girl away from the group you're going to get cock
blocked... badly! Make sure you've display higher value to the entire group so when you pull away
your target they won't think your a total creep. This is where a wingman is
helpful in keeping the obstacles occupied while you start to get to know the
girl better.
Rapport is built through touch and level of
comfort. If you've attracted and qualified her then you’re onto comfort.
Comfort is a phase most people are good at; they just start it too soon. In
this phase questions like "what’s your favorite childhood memory" and
"where do you plan on being 5 years from now come out". If you tried
a cold read earlier and said something like, “I can totally tell, you are an
only child". Now would be the time to look into that more, would she have
liked to have a sister or a brother? Then branch off of that. What’s important
to you, what kind of values do you hold... does she see things the same way you
do? Get to know her a little better; she might actually be an interesting
person!
Seduction is a topic which we could write
numerous articles about; however, this article is not meant to be a sex guide,
merely a tool to help get you closer to this goal.
Hypnotic
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